Facebook. Twitter. Blog. I use those and other online social networking services, and each of them enriches my life in unique ways. I feel more connected with family and old friends than ever before, and I’ve had the opportunity to get acquainted with several engaging individuals that I didn’t know well, or know at all.
On the flip side, these technological wonders also give me a unique opportunity to make an ass of myself before the entire planet. Much of what I say is visible to the world and can be read by anyone and archived, potentially, forever. A seemingly-clever quip I might make today might look very disturbing years later, especially if the context is lost.
So it seems important for me to articulate a policy on how I use social networks. Maybe by doing so my friends will understand better how I behave on the Internet. Also, maybe it will inspire them to consider how they should use these services.
Facebook
Facebook is where I like to interact with people I know. So there are two keys for me having someone as a friend on Facebook. First, I have to know the person in real life. Second, that person and I have to have a mutual desire to interact.
From time to time, I go through my list of friends and remove those I rarely interact with. There are several reasons for doing this, one or two of which I’ll discuss later, but “defriending” someone isn’t any sort of personal reflection on that person. It usually means that the interaction I have with that person on that site, if any, is no longer pertinent.
Recently I had upwards of 250 Facebook friends, and I culled the list to less than 100 based on this policy.
If I get a friend request from someone I don’t know, I’ll ignore it. If I get a request from someone I do know, but not well, I’ll accept it and see whether we have engaging interaction over the next several weeks. Then I’ll evaluate whether to keep him or her on my list.
Twitter
Twitter is the foundation for my interaction with both people I do know and people I don’t. I have Facebook set to update my status when I "tweet" on Twitter, so the two work in tandem.
But there’s more to the site. Twitter might seem like people shouting disjointed thoughts in a single, loud, crowded room, but it’s more than that. It’s a place where I have made connections with persons I don’t know.
There’s a lot more to Twitter than meets the eye. Several of its more savvy users search Tweets for things that interest them, and respond to those Tweets. For those who use it that way, Twitter becomes a fun community of people with common interests.
Often I’m on Twitter keeping up with comments on live shows, such as American Idol or Arkansas Razorbacks football. Some of my best Twitter buddies I’ve met during those interactions. I won’t ever get to meet most of them in real life, but I follow them and enjoy their perspective on several things.
So it’s my policy on Twitter to make my tweets public for the world to see, and I’ll allow anyone to follow me on Twitter so long as they aren’t spammers.
Blog
My web log is a place for me to express thoughts and opinions that take more than 140 text characters to say. My blog is updated rarely because most of what I want to communicate can be done on Twitter.
My blog has taken different tacks over the 7+ years I’ve been using it. It’s gone from amusing anecdotes to opinions on gadgets and back again to more personal discussion.
But as for policy, there have been some rules that I follow when I blog. I never mention names when it comes to particular persons (other than myself). It’s not a platform for me to rant unless I believe my rants are entertaining.
I’d like to take my blog in a more personal direction, but I don’t want to get into too many details because it’s an open book for the world to read. Those who reflect on their experience from, say, recovering from surgery are sharing details that might best be left private. Perhaps someday they wouldn't want their employer (or potential future employers) to know details about their health issues, so they should be careful.
Other thoughts
I am very careful about how I mention my employer and work-related situations on any of my social sites. Sure, I’ll mention a frustrating day at work, or maybe generally touch on a humorous situation that might have happened, but it ends there. I don’t want to drag workplace situations into the public arena.
How I interact with coworkers also concerns me. Recently I was promoted higher into middle management at my company. I’m concerned about the dynamic my new position causes with some of my coworkers, and I’m reluctant to interact with them. After all, I can’t imagine having your boss on Facebook would be very much fun. As a result, I defriended several of my coworkers trying to be sensitive to the situation they’re in because of my new role.
So there you have it. My policy on social interaction. If you ever find me missing on your friends list, please don't take it personally.